“Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.” (Eph. 4:29)

What is foul or abusive language?

It is any language that tears people down and goes against the character of God—anything that is not loving. This includes things like cursing, lying, and gossiping (Eph. 4:25, 31). Words carry power and can bring either life or death (Prov. 18:21). When we speak wrongly, we don’t just harm ourselves, but we can also lead others away from God (Matt. 12:36-37).

What language is good, helpful, and encouraging?

Language that is rooted in love, truth, and kindness. Words that build people up, point them toward God, and align with His will (Eph. 4:15; 1 Thess. 5:11). Our speech should be gracious and uplifting (Col. 4:6; Prov. 15:1).

We represent Christ with our words:

We are called to be a light to the world (Matt. 5:14-16). The way we speak reveals what is in our hearts (Luke 6:45). If we call ourselves Christians, people will connect our words with how Christians speak. If we speak poorly, we can misrepresent Jesus (Rom. 2:23-24). But if we speak with love and encouragement, we draw people to Him (John 13:35).

Real-life:

In my own life, I often feel the temptation to speak poorly about others so I can feel a sense of pride or power. Many of us struggle with cursing or harsh words. Even if it feels good in the moment, we should think about our heart posture—what is fueling these words? (Ps. 139:23-24; Matt. 12:34). We are called to be slow to speak and careful with our words (James 1:19).

As children of God, we represent Him on the earth (2 Cor. 5:20).

Application:

Be intentional with your words. Think before you speak. Don’t let your words tear people down or misrepresent Jesus. Let your words bring life (Prov. 18:21) and be pleasing to God (Ps. 19:14). Be a light to the world—speak with love, speak encouragement, and reflect the goodness of God (Col. 3:17).

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Side Note:

Speaking love and goodness does not mean accepting or approving sin.

You can love someone by telling them the truth gently (Eph. 4:15) and being patient with them (2 Tim. 2:24-25; Gal. 6:1).

Prayer

God, I thank You for today! You are a good God who loves us so much, and I’m grateful for that. I come boldly into Your throne room and ask that You help me with the words I speak. Let my words be pleasing to You (Ps. 19:14). Help me speak life, encouragement, and Your truth.

I love You, God, and I praise Your holy name, Jesus.

In Jesus’ mighty name I pray, amen.